Sunday, October 16, 2016

A Sense of (False) Urgency

Way back before the recession, I used to have a very fast-paced job.  I typically managed to get the things done that needed to be done, in order for the people using the computer system I supported to do their jobs most effectively.

You see, for me, it has always been about the people more than the computers.  The computers are merely tools to be used by the people.  And the business users of our system recognized me for that ability, and therefore came to depend on me.

One phrase that my boss used more than once in an annual employee review was this:  “works with a sense of urgency”.  I suspect that was one of those popular corp-speak phrases that managers at this large company sprinkled across the employee reviews for those of us worker bees who were able to get the job done without a lot of fanfare or foolishness.

When the company made its decision in late 2007 to outsource the jobs of hundreds of us worker bees, the whole game changed.  And it didn’t just change for that company at that time.  No, those of us remaining at work until early ‘08 to train the foreign contract firm’s employees had barely time to catch our collective breath – and perhaps snag another job – before the worst recession of our lifetimes hit.

After failing to make myself more professionally relevant in newer technology skills, I opted to move to a land far away and do something completely different with my life.  When I failed at that, I opted to move back here and try to get back into the old grind.

What a shock to move back from a small southern town to a large metropolitan area.  I had no idea how different my brain had become during that two years and eight months away. To me, everything here seemed so fast, so angry, so impersonal.  This was not my old home town.  Where did it go?

I’ve been alive long enough to learn that when everything around me seems completely different than it had been before some event took place, the change has actually been in my own brain, not so much in everything around me.  

But to be fair, the “smart” phone became a thing while I was running an accidentally non-profit lodging establishment.  It was a thing that changed everything.

As compared with my computer career – where telephones and pagers frequently sounded in the middle of a night’s deep sleep to inform me that my services were required on the job – now it seemed that anyone with any job of serious nature was on 24/7/365 call.  In 2012, I actually met two former coworkers for lunch, and not only did they not have a lot of time to linger and chat, they actually each placed multiple electronic devices next to their place settings on the table when we all sat down.  

We now fast forward to my actually getting a job here in September of 2014. No, it’s not a job of a serious nature.  It’s a low paid clerical job that includes health insurance and seems to be a job from which I neither get fired nor quit.  And that’s why I’m still there.  Inertia is a strong force in life at my age.

One of my coworkers, also underpaid considering his prior career as an engineer, gets a variety of “urgent” text messages from our boss, who is a woman of my same age group.  

This coworker is a Millennial who is a father of a baby girl, and his personality type is like mine – introverted yet fascinated by other people’s behavior.  He doesn’t believe that moving faster gets the job done any better.  He and I are both fans of the plan, which would be the opposite managerial philosophy of “shoot water on the flame burning highest NOW” – Management By Crisis – which is espoused by the boss and several of her employees.

The boss actually told this young man more than once that he does not work with a sense of urgency.  She sees his work style as one of procrastination, rather than one of thoughtful planning and attempting to avert crises before they happen.

My theory is that the everything-everywhere availability of so much communication, especially since smartphones came into being, has caused people to feel that they are not doing their best work unless they are rushing around.  There’s a certain adrenaline hit that comes from being so busy you can’t take breaks.  It’s a sense of being needed, and everyone needs to feel needed.

This is amped up by the current coffee culture (and I refuse to name that expensive brand that tries to put all others out of business) that pervades my office and probably most others, especially in the morning.  My workplace is filled with young people racing around like they’re on some kind of steroids most days.

Is it any wonder there are so many “near misses” in traffic on my commute path, and lots of tragic or fatal not-misses featured in every traffic report in this town at start and end of day?

Is it more important to pay deep attention to what you’re doing in the moment?  Well, when you’re over a certain age, it definitely can be a life or death matter when it involves directing a piece of heavy machinery in which you are contained on a road with other such machinery.  Those of us who are painfully aware of our own impaired vision and slowed reflexes tend to be careful enough for everyone else (creating our own anxiety).

It is my opinion that a sense of urgency in my life should be reserved for things that really matter:  my family and loved ones, including myself.  Computers can create a sense of false urgency that is addictive, but at some point everyone needs to decide what his/her priorities really are, and be more true to that than to any boss or device.

Saturday, July 16, 2016

Does This Job Application Make Me Look Negative?

The interviewer asked me to describe, in 1,000 characters or fewer, what makes me deserve this job.  I utilized 988 characters, according to their online count, as follows:

I'm passionate about non-profit organizations in this economy.  Passion drives great work. 

I don't need supervision.  I worked from home online for nearly three years to keep the bills paid without a full-time position, requiring keen focus.  I get the work done, and I'm a quality fanatic.

When you ask me to show up somewhere, I’m there.  I’m reliable, punctual, and disciplined.

I'm able to easily adapt to a variety of grammar constraints and writing styles to suit my customer.  I've done a lot more of this than my resume or LinkedIn profile will indicate.

I'm very comfortable with a variety of computer hardware and software.  I also have the ability to work around system bugs in newer software.

I've done some actual Search Engine Optimization work for the website that my husband and I developed for our small business (Lake Verona Lodge Bed and Breakfast) which helped increase traffic to our site.

Please contact me to find out more.  Your position sounds exciting!

Monday, July 4, 2016

Dear Daddy, What Now?

Dear Daddy,

I know it’s been nearly 23 years since you left this planet, but I have never stopped missing you, and I continue to need your advice.  Maybe I need your advice now more than I ever did while you were still around.  I was only 34 when you left, and I had thought I was getting things figured out.

What do I do now?  How long do I wait for my new life to happen?  In what direction should I be looking?

I’m aware that you too lost your livelihood of choice before you were ready or able to stop working to support yourself and Mom.  I’m sure that a television repair shop seemed like a great business model back in 1956 or whenever you and Stan started Lucas & Siegel TV Repair.  After all, you two had done your apprenticeships at Hollander & Co., and did pretty well know your collective way around the electronics of the day.

In your case, I’m sure it was really scary to marry off both your daughters in the same year as your business was no longer profitable and you and your (then) three partners were considering your options in what must have seemed like a bleak economy in 1987.

I remember you going through every variety of odd job trying to find something with health coverage for yourself and your unemployed bipolar wife.  I know it was a terrible struggle.  I wish I had paid more attention.

I do know that you landed on your feet, so to speak, when you went to work for the state senator for four years – long enough to get state health coverage for you and Mom – and enjoyed working as his personal assistant.  That job seemed tailor made for you, and yet, I know it was not without its difficulties.  Being 60 and having to start a new career is not for sissies.  Hell, from what I’ve seen in others, being 60 is not for sissies.

You were such a good man to give up that job to someone else who needed it more.  I remember the senator’s next assistant being thankful and keeping in touch with you right up until your last breath at age 67.

All my life I’ve tried to do “the right thing” in every situation with which I’m presented.  I try to follow your example and the footsteps in which you and Mom carefully raised me.  But I’m at one of those crossroads now where I simply don’t know where to turn or what else to try.

I did what you told me – “get a good education, get a good job with health insurance, be able to support yourself for life so you don’t have to depend on others” – for as long as I could.  I know that life’s not fair, but for some reason I thought I could keep on doing like I had been until retirement age.  I kept my dealings with other people honest, and didn’t stab backs.  I had a great reputation as a better-than-average employee everywhere I worked until 2008.

I guess I wasn’t watching the signs closely enough about what was going to happen to the economy and my own nearly-obsolete skill set.  I guess I just wasn’t paying attention and I missed a lot of red flags.

I remember more than one of your lectures to me as a child ending with you screaming “you’re missing the point, Mary Rose!” Well, I feel like I’m missing it now.

Maybe I did successfully help raise two sons.  I mean, after all, they have both landed in what seems to be the promised land of health, wealth, and happiness.  I can’t bemoan the fact that they’re “too far away” because it’s the job of parents to launch their babies from the nest.

While it’s true that I never exactly promised my beloved husband, Stu, that I would support him in the style to which we had become accustomed, I actually cringe at the way we have to live now and what little he is able to enjoy in what should be his golden years.

I so wish you and Stu could have gotten to know each other as fellow human beings.  You’re so much alike.  He actually has now outlived you, as of about February of this year.  I am all too aware that every moment matters with someone you love, and I know that life is temporary.

So what is a washed-up old former mainframe programmer, who’s so afraid of trusting most other people that she can count her actual friends on one hand, supposed to do now?

I’m crying as I type this letter to someone who is no longer living.  I just don’t know what to try next.  No one wants to hire a 57-year-old woman who “used to be” something but hasn’t done anything for them recently.  No agency wants to pay for me to go back to school.

I’m so frustrated by the fact that I know my mind is sharp as any chef’s knife, but my body is falling apart.  And I’m slowly dying inside every day at my current underpaid job, where I sit at a desk and keep track of data, creating reports that no one ever looks at until something goes wrong.

And here it is, another holiday.  Stu and I have no family in town and no friends for any get-togethers.  I sit here and listen to the occasional firecracker being shot off, the occasional kids yelling, the birds singing, through the open window.

Yes, I’m grateful for the weather.  It changes every few hours in this town, so I guess I should just learn to love diversity, be more flexible, all that stuff.

Daddy, please help.  I need a job that deserves me.  I need a reason to WANT to get out of bed in the morning.  I need some social activity.  I need to feel like I belong on this planet.

Please note that, just like when you were alive, I’m still a needy little kid that never asks what YOU want, just what I want.  I’m sure I was one big “gimme” monster growing up with endless questions.  

Sadly, the monster is still in here.  But now, I’m not only asking you for something specific with an easy answer from you, even if it was "no". I’m asking you to show me what I want and how to get it.

Aren’t you glad you’re not here anymore?  Selfishly, I will never stop missing you.

Your Loving Child,

Mary Rose